Best advice I've gotten since 1985...

Funking Dave You just mutrhafukkin blew my mind Michelle!!!
To hell with a dozen, you get the whole garden!
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That was included in this email I sent. It should explain itself well
enough.


Sent a copy to my asshole lawyer with this message attached (I'm not so sure I knew you then, but I assume I must have)....
Message came at just the right time...
Hi (Name is private).
No I’m not going to say a word about this in court. I just got it from an old friend that I haven't seen since 1985 and never will see again. Somehow she knows what I’ve been going through and I thought you might want to understand it too…
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 If you are related to, married to, or divorced from a narcissist, then you know how difficult it is reason with them.
Narcissists are masters at manipulation. They are often intelligent and charming when you first meet them. In the beginning,
 you hold them to such high esteem (of course to which they are fully aware) and they love to bask in your adulation.
But once you catch on to their tactics, and question behavior that is opposite of their once-charming selves, they become deeply threatened. They will then paint themselves as a victim and you as their aggressor, and expertly blame you for the relationship's demise, and all other misfortunes in their life. And you, as the codependent, try to reason with her, change her mind, or challenge every verbal assault point-by-point in hopes that she snaps out of her irrational behavior. Maybe this time she will understand, you think. If I explain it to her this way, she will get it. She can't be THAT close-minded, I'm going to tell her once more.
But the more you explain, the colder and more manipulative she becomes. She may talk to you like a child, as if you're stupid. And you can't even believe how a person can lack such empathy, so you explain more, trying harder and harder to make her "get it" -- and the more you do that, the more it supplies her narcissistic fantasies that she is better and smarter than anyone.
 The constant attempts to explain or get some kind of emotional response with no return is what I call the Narcissistic Vortex -- it's a deep, black hole that sucks you in, with no way out. And until you understand this, you are going to think you're crazy, unloved, or worse, that you aren't worthy of anyone else's love so you end up staying with this person or being alone forever.
If you are not married and trying to end a relationship with a Narcissist, then the expert advice is to have no contact with her. You end the relationship cold-turkey, as if giving up a very bad addiction. But what if you are divorcing a narcissist, or you must endure a co-parenting relationship long term -- how do you manage the constant manipulation even as you try to get on with your life?
She might blame you for the smallest mistakes (thereby raising her own false self-worth), or she criticizes you for everything you do with the kids. And because she is SO falsely mistaken, you write her a long email, explaining your actions, or you become ensued in a long texting battle. And thus, you enter the Narcissistic Vortex.
You must remember, this vortex is a trap. By replying to her (no matter how negative), it feeds her narcissistic supply -- a.k.a, her false sense of self that she is better than you (or anyone else for that matter).
So if the manipulation happens via email, for example, you must first ask yourself: does it require a reply? Are there any crucial issues that really require your response, like financial matters during divorce or logistics with the children?
Unfortunately with Narcissists, they can never write an email without making themselves look a victim/martyr, or passive aggressively knocking your ability to function as an adult.
The true secret to engaging with a narcissist is little to no response. Reply with "yes" or "no" answers, or merely factual replies like, "yes, I am picking kids up at 5:00 p.m. today." Ignore all other stabs or attempts of getting a heated reaction from you. If your narcissist wants to talk with you over the phone about certain matters, let her ask you questions for which a yes or no answer is required. If the conversation results in accusations or manipulation, quite simply say to her, "If you have anything to discuss with me, please put it in email." And then hang up.
You will never change her mind. You will never get her to see your side of things. As long as you attempt to do so, you will forever be stuck in her vortex and unable to move on.
Learning how to deal with a narcissist can't be accomplished by reading just this one blog. It takes skill, practice, reading books on the subject and perhaps coaching or therapy. Whatever you do, don't try to learn this alone.

NOTE: I aint good at formattin and it's all fukked-up. I did my best to fix it and I can't do no more.

How to find videos, free and easy

Old friend of mine asked me how to find videos.
I told her I use search methods. Here are some of the easiest ones to use and with them you can find just about anything out there.
First one is ant.com, it's two things. It's a vid search that can search all the major sites and (I'm not sure if it works with Internet Explorer or Chrome, find out yourself), but if you use Firefox you can download the videos for free from most sites with their downloader [Here].
Another good one is Bing.com [Here].
Google works, but it's really mostly a Youtube search, [here's the link], I had to type in something just to get the search option. I typed "movies", type anything you like in in the search options.

Id you like software try ashampoos Clipfinder 2, might still be free, might be ten bucks. I don't know because I own it and can't get to the buy option.


More than that there's Irfanview that lets you watch streaming and record as you watch almost anything, but it'll take some reading to figure it out. I'm not sure if he remembers me, but Irfan Skiljan that built this was a friend of mine ten years ago and this is by far the best anything viewer you can ever get and it's free.

Beyond that beware. There are many search programs out there. Most I have found out put hijackers on your browser and mess with all your searches.

This post is for Charlotte, but also for anyone interested.

Stupid picture posted below only to show something more than a link....

Newer understanding, Reality and Perception...

I'm not as convinced as some, but the journey there is half the trip.
Study the path you're walking on, you'll need it to find your way home.

NOTE: To see the video's in full screen click the box on the lower right side border of the viewer

Joe Rogane's view...


A Ted Talk. TEDxTalks are incredible, for more click [here].


This is a whole damn movie on the subject. It will take me three days to watch it myself, but eventually I will...


In school they said compressed fully our bodies could each fit on the head of a pin.
That means we are built of mostly empty space, but is it empty or what could it be filled with.
The answer is energy. We are less than 01% mass, over 99% energy and that's something to think about.

Blessings and peace, enjoy the ride you're on :)

Comments on a Militia Presence post follow...

Here's the post, my comments inserted in italics.

Ongoing Militia Presence Raises Fears Among Locals Near Bundy Ranch

By David Neiwert on April 30, 2014 - 11:15 am, Posted in Antigovernment, Militias

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Cliven Bundy with militia supporters
People (Which "people"?) in rural southeastern Nevada and the surrounding area are not accustomed to being the center of national media attention (would they prefer to have their land and property taken from them by the BLM and a media black-out so that nobody hears about it?), as they have increasingly been since their neighbor, rancher Cliven Bundy, began his notorious standoff with federal authorities. But what bothers them now is the threatening presence of armed militiamen who have taken up semi-permanent residency at Bundy’s ranch.

Some (name a few please?) local residents, in fact, are complaining that the militiamen are setting up armed checkpoints and detaining people as they travel to their homes, asking for proof that they live nearby before allowing them to proceed. However, the militiamen themselves deny this, and investigating news crews have not found any evidence of it.

What these locals can say with certainty, though, is that the circus surrounding the standoff and the militias’ refusal to leave is not only disrupting their normally quiet lives, it is costing them money.

Congressman Steve Horsford of Las Vegas ( Isn't he just a paid public speaker anyway, of course he's going to be outspoken and criticizing, it's what he gets paid to do.), has been outspoken in criticizing the militiamen, charging that local residents have been confronted by militiamen who have set up armed checkpoints and demanded that they prove they live in the area before being allowed to pass. Horsford also says the militias have created a “persistent presence” along federal highways and state and county roads.



Horsford has demanded that Clark County Sheriff Doug Gillespie crack down on the outsiders, saying they make local residents feel unsafe.

“I am greatly concerned about the safety and well-being of my constituents after meeting with local community members this past week. I urge Sheriff Gillespie to investigate these reports, as this sort of intimidation cannot be tolerated,” Horsford said.

“We must respect individual constitutional liberties, but residents of and visitors to Clark County should not be expected to live under the persistent watch of an armed militia,” Horsford wrote in a letter to Gillespie. “Residents have expressed their desire to see these groups leave their community. I urge you to investigate these reports and to work with local leaders to ensure that their concerns are addressed in a manner that allows the community [to] move forward without incident.”

They aren’t the only residents who feel threatened. According to a report from KLAS-TV in Las Vegas, the militiamen have also threatened people who live in the nearby town of Mesquite, and businesses there claim they have lost over $100,000 (Looks like free advertising to me, but prove it anyway) because of their presence.

The station reported that a local hotel was forced to evacuate all of its clients one evening following a bomb threat. The hotel also received at least nine threatening calls after it permitted Bureau of Land Management rangers to stay there. The callers demanded the BLM rangers be kicked out or the hotel “would not be standing in the morning. (aww, c'mon. Bomb threats are serious and they result in arrests after one call, they don't wait for call number 3 or ever allow nine!)”

One hotel worker told the news crew he had been told by an anonymous militia member that he would be “dragged out in the parking lot and shot”.

News crews were unable to find any (Couldn't find any of those  instances of “persistent presence” or "persistent watch" is what I think they're trying to say...) armed checkpoints when they went out searching for them. A militia group spokesman named Ryan Payne denied to KVVU-TV that they were conducting such checks.

“We are not to set up checkpoints, we are not to pull over civilians, without, you know, reasonable cause,” Payne said. Of course, militiamen have no legal right to pull anyone over – with or without reasonable cause.

But local residents remain far from assured. “We are not a playground for armed militias,” Horsford said. ("Nah, I understand, you're just a wap land grab deal for the BLM, huh?") “This unfortunate incident and the outside groups that have come for their own agenda are putting a black eye on this community.”
Atricle is posted [here]

Disclaimer: The comments above are not necessarily all my own, they are mine shared with others over concerns stemming from the Federal Governments abuse of power in respects to personally own proprty. 

Article copied and used without consent, but only for a means to comment on what was actually said.

The story of Kings and a King…

Beginning with King Saul, who was anointed as King through the Lords Prophet Samuel.
King Saul refused to follow the instructions of The Lord, because of that The Lord lost favor in him and Samuel went out seeking another king.
He was advised to seek Jesse and to seek from him a son.
Jesse met him and invited him to dine with him that night and his sons. Samuel asked of all of Jesse’s sons would be there, but there were only six and Jesse had seven.
Samuel asked Jesse id he had any more sons. Jesse said he had a youngest son named David who watched the flocks by night.
Samuel went to the flocks in the fields and found David attending there.
After some discussion Samuel gave the blessing of The Lord to David, that he would soon be King.
Saul’s son called for David without knowledge of the blessing and brought David home to King Saul’s side.
Over the period of the  next ten years or so David became a great Warrior and jealousy brewed in Saul’s heart. Some say eventually driving him mad.
Through many complicated phases Saul sought to have David killed.
Eventually Saul and his sons died in one battle and the David was anointed as the Great King of Judah.
The story doesn’t end there. King David later saw Bathsheba  bathing (some say on a rooftop, Second Samuel 11-2 says David saw her from his rooftop. Some stories claim it was through a window). Every version told confirms David committed adultery with her and that this angered Our Lord.
For years David prayed in repentance  and suffered a great deal over that sin.
David eventually had Bathsheba’s husband (Uriah the Hettite) placed in position during a battle where he was sure to be killed. That left Bathsheba to become free to become his wife.
After that One od David's sons Amnon  raped his daughter Tamar. His other son Absalom, Amnon's half-brother and Tamar's full-brother, waits two years, then avenges his sister by sending his servants to kill Amnon at a feast to which he had invited all the king's sons.
The years now became difficult for David. Absalom took over David’s kingdom and David ended up in exile for a number of years until eventually he returned after Absalom's death.
All of this led up to the greatest King of all, the wisest man that ever lived and that would be the son of King David & Bathsheba,  King Solomon.

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Wiki’s pages follow…
The Prophet Samuel
King Saul
King David
Bathsheba
Absalom
King Solomon

Better...
The King James Bible
(This online Bible has a search engine built inside by index and advanced)

NOTE: Please don't take this movie version too seriously. It's obvious that they tried, but nothing compares with the written text in The Bible. This is good, no Great as an introduction. From there you should seek more.

Thank you for reading. I cannot give Gods Blessings, but I can ask that you find them and I do and I will,,,
David K. Rice